把笑声给了你，把痛苦给自己——再见，《老友记》

每一年

不，每一秒

都有人离开这个物质世界

2023年，也无法独善其身

身边的，不便多说

那就说说，天边的那位

《老友记》(Friends) 的六大主角之一

Matthew Perry 离世，时年54岁

读到英国B站缅怀Perry的文章

特此摘录、解说如下：

马修·派瑞（Matthew Perry, 1969年8月19日—2023年10月28日）

马修·派瑞讣告：盛名袭来，心魔难去

Matthew Perry obituary: Friends brought fame but couldn't quell personal demons

欢笑与人，功成名就，心如困兽

1. While on screen he was making millions laugh on TV's biggest show, Matthew Perry was locked in a painful cycle of addiction, and a battle with demons that stemmed from a damaged childhood.

In 1986, … Matthew Perry was convinced fame would wash all his problems away.

"I needed it. It was the only thing that would fix me. I was certain of it."

…..But it (fame) didn't wash his problems away.

2. Stardom as the sharp-witted Chandler Bing on Friends also brought fortune - in the form of $1.1m an episode - and a string of glamorous girlfriends.

Yet behind the scenes, Perry's struggles to keep his personal life and health on the rails only seemed to grow.

童年阴影，少年叛逆，创伤难平

3. In his autobiography, Perry traced his insecurities - as well as his comic talents - back to a childhood that was split between his divorced parents, but in which he felt a sense of abandonment from both.

By the age of 10, Perry started misbehaving - stealing money, smoking, letting his grades nosedive, and at one point beating up his schoolmate and Trudeau's son Justin - now Canada's PM.

天赐良机，量身定做，不能自拔

4. Matthew Perry and Chandler: A match made in comedy heaven

5. "When I read the script for Friends Like Us, it was as if someone had followed me around for a year, stealing my jokes, copying my mannerisms, photocopying my world-weary yet witty view of life," he said. "One character in particular stood out to me. It wasn't that I thought I could play Chandler. I was Chandler."

压力山大，借酒浇愁，心如死灰

6. "If I didn't get the laugh I was supposed to get, I would freak out. I felt that every single night. This pressure left me in a bad place."

7. He began drinking more in the hope that vodka would fix the things that fame hadn't.

When Friends reached its final episode three years later, the cast, crew and audience were in tears. Perry said he felt nothing. "I couldn't tell if that was because of the opioid I was taking, or if I was just generally dead inside."

8. After such a big hit, it was hard for all the cast members to replicate that success.

渴望真爱，关闭心门

9. At first on Friends, he was "crushing badly" on Aniston, but those feelings evaporated, mainly because of "her deafening lack of interest".

…he said he found it hard to let people in. "I need love but I don't trust it…”

内心恐惧，盛名之累；推己及人，施以援手

10. It was a high price for those deep-rooted insecurities that weren't fixed by huge fame, but he also used his own experiences to advocate for support for addicts.

斯人已去，笑声长存

11. And he will long be fondly remembered for that by fans of Friends, on which he wore both his flaws and his natural comic brilliance on his sleeve.